Being Single: Others Make it Hard


I've gotten to the point in life where friends my age (or just people I went to school with) are a) dating b) getting married and c) might have even have a kid. I'm literally just two years out of high school, and yet how often do I get asked: 

"Do you have a boyfriend yet?"

"Why not?" (when my answer to their first question is no)

I've even had several customers at my job ask (or assume) that I'm married! 

But it's the constant boyfriend nagging that irritates me. It's as if everyone assumes that once you hit a certain age, or a certain stage in your life, that you're automatically going to have a boyfriend/get married. 

Now don't get me wrong, I do desire to one day have a boyfriend who will a little later on become my husband and all that - the difference is, I'm waiting for God to decide that "one day" for me! 

Besides watching many of my friends start dating, it makes it all the more difficult to be "content in all things" (Philippians 4:11) when others just won't let you! Is it really necessary to always be asking if someone's dating yet? Why not ask me what exciting things are happening in my life, or what God is doing, or what I'm looking forward to or planning? Trust me, I think dating someone would come up in some way while answering any of those questions if I'm dating! And it would be way more enjoyable of a conversation for me if it was approached in that way. 

So if you know someone single, don't dangle dating and marriage all over in front of their face and do more harm than good to your relationship and their contentedness in where God has them - instead, edify them with other wholesome conversation and probing into the deeper things in their life. I guarantee it'll be worth your effort to do so! 

God brings special people into our lives at different times, and I for one am not one to rush the process! I think it much more worthwhile to commune with Jesus and get to know Him, and consequently myself, better first and then be able to more fully enjoy adding someone special to my life.

When the time is right (for God's timing is always perfect!) I will be able to proudly display my boyfriend/husband to everyone who was so impatient for what was - er, was not - happening in my life when they wanted it to. 

And it will be a glorious time because God will have perfectly prepared me for it.

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